It has to be said, people are becoming more adventurous in the bedroom. What once was seen as dirty, disgusting, and sometimes immoral is now being tried out more and more.
But what exactly are people doing more regularly? Well, here is a list of five things we are seeing become increasingly popular between couples. Hold on to your hats, some of them may surprise you.
1) Pegging
This is where the woman will get a strap on, put it on, and then start to have sex with the bottom of the man. Apparently it has been popular in porn for decades, but only got the name in 2001 when US sex commentator Dan Savage, author of the Savage Love column, held a contest to come up with a name for the practice. If you are interested in trying it out, and want to do it safely, here is our guide to it.
2) BDSM
We have all seen the popularity of the ’50 Shades’ series. Yes, we all know that it isn’t a realistic view of what BDSM is like, but is certainly has helped to get it into the public consciousness.
There’s a big difference between BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission), and sadism and masochism (inflicting or receiving physical or psychological suffering on yourself or others).
Most BDSM role-play scenarios have safe words in place, and it all stops when the pain becomes too much or people become uncomfortable.
People use handcuffs and pretend to be slave and master. Sometimes the roles are rigid, other times flexible, it is up to the individuals.
3) Anal Fun
I remember when I was younger. If you were a guy into anal sex, you were seen as a closet homosexual. Now things have changed and anal sex has become a staple of many lovers bedroom activities.
In 2017, roughly 40 per cent of women, aged 20 to 24, have had a go at anal sex, and around 20 per cent of women in relationships have had anal sex in the last three months. That is actually mind-blowing.
“Twenty years ago, anal toys meant anal beads and butt plugs; now there are dozens of types of anal toys for him, her and couple play,” says Bonny Hall, product director of Lovehoney, one of the biggest UK sex toy retailers.
Prostate massagers are also becoming more popular. Who would have thought it?
4) Tea Bagging
For those who haven’t seen ‘Sex and the City’, tea bagging is when a man puts his scrotum into his partner’s mouth and then dips it in and out, just like you would do when dunking a tea bag into hot water.
Granted, there isn’t much pleasure attached for the woman, but as guys love that areal being touched and kissed, it is no surprise it is becoming popular.
5) Golden Showers
I remember being told about my uncle doing this 20 years ago, and I thought he was was a raving pervert. However, attitudes to urinating on someone have definitely changed.
Some like the feeling of being degraded or degrading their partner but many love it because it is one of the last legal sexual acts that remains ‘taboo’. It is certainly more common than you would think.
So there we go. There are always things you can try out which will spice up your sex life. Maybe this is a list you can work through?
Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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