Our 5 Favourite Phone Sex Tricks!

As much as we’d like to, we can’t always be in the same place as the sexy ladies and gentlemen we like to meet up with. They might be visiting other areas of the country, or we might find that we simply don’t have the time to see them when they do. Instead we have to either wait until they come touring to our town, when we have more time to spare, or we have to arrange an alternative date. Yes, meeting up with them is preferable, but when the situation calls for it, we are all more than happy to settle for a Skype date or some phone sex to keep us going and excited!

Sexy woman on bed write message for phone sex

When it comes to phone sex, a few of us find ourselves getting a little nervous. We worry about saying the perfect things to get our partner in the mood, and we start to panic that one wrong word can completely ruin the mood. That isn’t the case at all, but if you find yourself thinking over it a little too much, the Escort Ireland blog can help! We’ve put together our five favourite phone sex tricks for you to use, so test them out and see which work best for you.

Test the waters first

For many, the whole point of having phone sex is so that you can listen to your partner describing what they’d do to you while you masturbate, but some don’t feel comfortable doing this over the phone.

To start with, you need to figure out what your partner is and isn’t comfortable with. It might be that they really enjoy hearing your heavy breathing, knowing that your hands are on your cock sliding slowly up and down as you think of them.

A simple way to test this is to just ask them what they are doing. If they say anything other than “touching myself”, you know that they might not be comfortable with it… and there is nothing wrong with that. Just let them know how hot you think they are on the phone and that’ll be enough to put them at ease.

Don’t go rushing in

A common mistake with phone sex is that people tend to rush in. They want to get to the good stuff immediately, which means things like foreplay are forgotten.

Just because you aren’t immediately in the room with them doesn’t mean you can skip foreplay. Foreplay is one of the best parts of sex, so take the time to enjoy it on the phone. It might be strange to get used to, but foreplay and phone sex go hand in hand.

The only difference is that you will have to describe what is happening. The key thing is to start with clothes. Describe what you would take off first and what you would then do with the exposed bit of skin. It will turn them on to hear you slowly undressing them.

Keep it short and sweet

One of the biggest problems people find with phone sex is that they start to talk and talk and talk with no signs of stopping. You might find you are saying too much, and often than can be a turn off.

Instead, keep things short and sweet. This is, after all, a conversation, and you want the other person to be involved. When you pause for breath, give them the chance to join in the kinky sex talk.

Sometimes, your partner might not wish to join in. They might feel uncertain of what to say, but don’t be tempted to take over. Instead, continue to keep things short and sweet but add in some prompts. Say things like “what would you do if I…” and then describe something you know drives them wild. Hopefully they’ll join in.

I want, I wish, I love

If this doesn’t work there are a few simple phrases you can use to help them think of the perfect kinky thing to say to you. The first is “I want”. “I want” makes it perfectly clear to the person of just what you would be demanding if you were there, and the fact that you aren’t might add a thrill. They can control the conversation by batting down your “I want” ideas.

“I wish” is also a nice one to use if you want to ease into it. “I wish I could see you so I could kiss you” helps to set the mood, and from there you can move onto more exciting conversation.

Of course, a firm favourite for many to use is “I love”. If there is something you’d enjoy hearing your partner whisper and say on the phone to you, this phrase will help tell them that. Simply say “I love” and describe the hot and kinky thing they do in bed that turns you on the most. They’ll take the hint and start describing your favourite sex act, and that will be all you need to hear to get you off.

Talking about phone sex

This final tip is one that is often forgotten when phone sex happens. Once you have both wound down for the kinky conversation, take the time to talk about what has just happened. Your partner might have just confessed a kink they wish to explore, and so you can let them know you are interested in exploring it with them.

You can also discuss the things that have been said in more detail and tell them what you think worked well. They might even say some ideas they have for the next time, which will help to make phone sex even more exciting!

Got some other ideas you want to share? Use the comment box below to get involved or head to the Escort Ireland forum and join in the discussion over there. You might find some more excellent phone sex tips to use in the future!

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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