When it comes to sex, the most important thing you can do is communicate. By having open and honest conversations with your partner about sex, you’ll be able to explore sex and have fun without hiding anything. Dirty talk is also a part of this communication skill… even if you are trying it via the hottest sexts you can think of.
But what is it that makes the hottest sexts? Is there a trick to it that you are missing? Maybe there is a winning formula to help you seduce someone in a text message? There are a few different things to write the hottest sexts you can, and I tell you how below!
Think of it as foreplay
As much as you might want to sometimes, you don’t just rush straight into sex. You will take your time building up, slowly teasing them and making them feel good. You’ll spend time on foreplay before you get to the main event.
You need to do the same when it comes to sexting. Don’t just rush into it because you are feeling horny. You want your partner to be feeling as turned on as you are, and the best way to do this is through teasing messages.
Sending something simple like “I’ve been thinking about you” is a good way to start. It shows that they are in your thoughts and might prompt a response of “oh?” in return. You can then go into details, saying things like “I can’t stop thinking about last time…” It’s the perfect starter.
Stick to what you know
If you are worried about sexting because you don’t have an active imagination or a lot of creativity, don’t worry. You don’t need it. You can just as easily send dirty text messages even if you don’t. All you have to do is stick to what you know.
The opener above is the perfect way to do just that. Think back to the last time you had sex. What happened?
Use this as a base to describe things in your messages. It’ll work well because it shows your partner how much of an impact it had on you, and best of all they’ll remember it too! It will create a vivid image in their head and they’ll be turned on in no time at all.
Use your senses
For those who are a little more creative and want to spice things up, there are a few things you can do. One of the best things to try is to use your senses to describe the things you’d love to happen or want to try.
Don’t just focus on the visual. Does it turn you on when your partner moans your name? Does it make your heart race and your cock throb when you feel their heavy breathing on your neck?
Go through each of the five senses. What can you describe to them with each one? You’ll be surprised by what you can come up with, and this will help to immerse you both into your kinky conversation.
“I want” and “I love”
Sentence starters are great, but often they feel a little too specific. You want to still use your imagination, but often starting off a sext can be a real challenge. There are two key phrases you can use in those circumstances: “I want” and “I love”.
“I want” is the perfect way to talk about kinky fantasies you have, especially if you have not explored them with your partner. Hoping that they’ll tie you up and treat you like their slave? You can say that with a simply “I want you to control me”.
“I love” is ideal for those times when you want to reminisce. You can describe the things that they do that really turn you on, and when you next see them again they might just remember the things you said and act upon them!
The hottest sexts you’ve received
For those still struggling it can help to think back on the hottest sexts you have ever received. Did someone say something to you that was so hot you couldn’t help jerking off while fantasising? You can use these messages as a template to create your own.
What is it that makes the hottest sexts so good for you? Is it being descriptive? Is it filthy language? Let us know what you think by leaving a comment in the box below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
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