Are you facing a sexual problem that involves premature ejaculation? Well, I am sure it makes you feel bad about yourself, but guess what? This is the most common sexual problem men under 40 face and…it’s fixable! So relax, it’s not the end of the world.
Here are some tips that will help you fix your problem and blow your woman’s mind as hard as she blows…yours.
And if they don’t work you can always give her an unforgettable oral sex until she has an orgasm and forgets all about your premature ejaculation issue. Don’t panic, I’m JOKING! They’ll work for you as they worked for everybody who had this problem.
Anxiety Makes You…Anxious!
As with many of people’s problems, it’s all in your head. This means that your state of mind has an important impact and, if you don’t relax and let go anxiety, you have fewer chances to overcome your premature ejaculation.
So, how about stop thinking so much about it, especially when you’re in bed with your woman. Did you know that your partner is interested in the act itself more than in timing your orgasm? Also, if you come faster than you want, it doesn’t mean you’re TOO fast or bad in bed.
Therefore, why don’t you start by changing the way you think about sex. Instead of seeing it as a way to achieve orgasm, look at it like it’s the most intimate and pleasurable time with your woman, who feels incredible with you, despite your ejaculation issues.
RELAX and TAKE IT EASY! This is not a marathon and nobody is counting how many minutes you can hold it. If you slow down your moves and be patient while enjoying a sensual foreplay you will make everything better for both you and your partner.
You can stimulate her in so many ways, so why concentrate on yours, when you can focus on hers? This altruistic attitude is going to help you relax and stop thinking about your ejaculating problem while having sex with your girl!
You Look Good on Her, but She’d Look Great on You!
There’s one thing you should know about sexual positions: some of them put more pressure on the sensitive part of your penis.
Most of these positions are the “active” ones. So, how about avoiding the missionary and rear-entry positions for a while, until you learn how to hold it for a longer period of time?
In the meantime, you can go for a “passive approach” and enjoy the view of your woman moving on top. How does that sound?
Hold Your Horses with the Squeeze Method!
No, this is not a dialectical method and Squeeze is not some kind of a Socrates. This is a simple way to reduce your erection. How to do it? Well, when you feel you are about to have an orgasm, just squeeze the base of your penis.
After you master this technique, you can teach your partner how to do it for you…or better said, for her.
And since we’re here, there is another thing you can do when you are about to come. Just STOP! OK, don’t stop and leave, but pause for 30 seconds before continuing whatever you were doing. Yes, you can do that every time you feel the orgasm getting close.
Just don’t stop instantly! Be sensual when you do it, and use your hands or your lips, to make the moment smoother.
Tantra for the Up and Not Coming Man
Many of you might believe sex is just a physical pleasure that we need. Well, we might be nothing but animals, but sex can also be an extremely intimate connection between you and your partner. And there are some interesting tantra techniques you can use in order to delay your orgasm.
For example, when you stop and pull it out for a couple of seconds in order to postpone the ejaculation, you can contract the PC muscle ( this is the floor of your pelvis, between the pubic bone and the tail bone) while lowering your chin to your chest, and concentrating on breathing in order to feel your sexual energy and its warmth.
You might find this hilarious, but it does work, especially if you do it repeatedly. It helps you lose the fear, concentrate on relaxing and continuing with enjoying your sexual intercourse!
The Dead Puppies Technique?
OK, you don’t actually have to be so dramatic, and the dead puppies can be baseball or football. What I am trying to say is that thinking about something that is far from being sexy can help…BUT be careful how often and for how long you do this.
It can be useful from time to time, but this is not the best method since your partner can feel you are thinking about something else. And man, having sex while there’s a wall between you is not good, even if you last for hours.
Put Your Hands Down Your Pants
Masturbation was good for you when you didn’t have a partner, and masturbation is good for you now too, especially when you have premature ejaculation problems.
How can this help? Well, it gives you more control on yourself and your penis by lowering your sexual appetite. So, why not give yourself a hand in order to have a better performance?
Cover Your Stone Before You Bone
I known that condoms are not usually men’s best friends, but besides the fact that they protect you from STDs and they are cheaper than diapers, they also reduce sensitivity, and if you have premature ejaculation problems, they do this for your own good.
When buying condoms, you might want to look for those thicker, though they might reduce your pleasure a lot. However, you never know the effect they have if you don’t use them.
Also, have you heard about benzocaine condoms? I know they are the reason some men can’t maintain an erection because of the anaesthetising agent, but you should try them and see how they work for you.
Keep Calm and Spray to Delay!
Just like there are special condoms containing a numbing agent, there are also sprays that have a similar effect.
So, using a delay spray might help you hold your water, thanks to the substances they contain (usually Benzocaine or Lidocaine). How to utilize it? Well, it’s easy breezy. Just apply it before having sex and you’re good to go!
Now, maybe not all of these techniques work for you, but some of them will and, in order to know which one you should begin testing them. However, in addition to all these tips you just have to not let this issue define you.
As I mentioned, there are many people who have the same problem and it CAN BE SOLVED. So, KEEP CALM, have patience and practice until you gain control over your climax time.
If the suggestions above don’t work for you, seeing a certified sex therapist or a physician is also an option. However, most people are able to win the battle with premature ejaculation and have a fantastic sex life.
Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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