Financial Domination 101: How It Works

When it comes to financial domination, a lot of people are clueless about what it entails. The ill-informed believe that it is simply a case of giving someone money for nothing, but this isn’t the case. Your relationship with a findom can be as varied as it might be with anyone else in your life.

Woman in hat and whip showing no talk, black and white

Being financially dominated covers a huge host of different activities. It isn’t simply someone demanding payment for nothing. There is a lot more to it than that, so how does financial domination work?

Why would someone want it?

A large number of people have fetishes. It might be that they love the idea of licking and sucking on someone’s feet, or perhaps they want to give up control completely to a kinky dominatrix. Our fetishes are as varied as we are, but for many, financial domination ties heavily into BDSM and the loss of control.

It’s no secret that life is hard. There are so many things we have to worry about each and every day, and it is for this reason that many are drawn to the idea of being dominated. When you are dominated, you don’t have to make decisions about anything. You are given clear instructions on what is expected of you, and this can be surprisingly freeing.

It’s a similar idea when someone is financially dominated. Most people won’t go a day without worrying about upcoming bills they have to pay or surprise expenses they have to try to resolve. Allowing a professional dominatrix to take control of your finances, even in a small way, can really help to free you.

BDSM is about control, and financial domination is no different
Original source: Elle UK

The types of financial domination

As with many things in the world of fetishes, there are many different types of financial domination for you to explore. It isn’t a case of just paying someone to get rid of some money. Often there are different motivations behind it.

Budgeting – Budgeting is another way that you can explore this intriguing fetish. With budgeting, the sub will give their findom total control of their finances. They might give you a set amount each week or perhaps each day, and if you need more, you have to beg for it.

However, most of the time your findom will not give you more. This is an effective budgeting strategy, and gives subs a thrill when they see how thrifty they can be with the small amount of money they are drip fed by their findom.

Fines – If you already have a fantastic relationship with your favourite dominatrix and feel like branching out into financial domination, perhaps fines is the best place for you to start? Think of fines with a financial dominatrix a little like a swear jar. If you do something, you have to pay up.

For example, if you have addressed them by any title other than mistress, you might be told to pay up. The beauty of it is that it can be totally tailored to whatever you do with them. If you love to be spanked but flinch, you could pay up for this. Maybe you could be fined if you don’t worship their body properly? There are so many possibilities, making this a fun way to be dominated.

Being fined is an intriguing way to explore this fetish
Original source: Popkey

Tributes – This is one of the most common ways people will be financially dominated. In this case, dominatrixes and findoms will ask their subs for tributes. Often this is in the form of a payment made towards them, but sometimes it can include gifts.

It is a way for the sub to show that they are serious about being financially dominated. After all, there are a lot of people out there completely unsure about what it is, and so they might not realise what they are getting into.

Blackmailing – Those who enjoy role play in some form but fancy seeing what the fuss is about by being financially dominated might want to try blackmail. Yes, this sounds a little extreme, but bear with us.

Your findom might tell you that you must pay them a set amount of money or they will release images of you in very compromising positions to your family and friends. The catch is that there usually are no pictures. It is all a part of role play, and this can be extremely thrilling in the right circumstances! However, this is a scenario best played out with someone you really trust.

Blackmail is a common role play scenario for findoms to act out with subs
Original source: Head Over Feels

Finding a findom

The lack of understanding about financial domination often means that subs believe absolutely anyone can do it… but they can’t. That isn’t how it works. It is a lot more complicated than it seems, and that is why you are best finding a skilled dominatrix who offers this service.

Do you think that this is the kind of service you’d like to try? Do you have a lot of experience with it in the past? Let us know what you think about it by leaving a comment in the box below. You can even tell us why you love it so much!

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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