Orgasms, for most of us, are a fantastic thing. They are the culmination of a sexual experience, and no matter how good the sex was (and sometimes it can be poor) the orgasm is always fun. Hey, nature made it fun so people did it and the human race didn’t die out. However, a study featured in ‘The Journal of Sex Research‘ has stated that the female orgasm may in fact be a BAD thing!
Apparently it is all about the reaction of men to them, and specifically the pleasure they get from it.
A ‘Masculinity Achievement’
Study researchers Sara Chadwick and Sari van Anders, refer to it as a “masculinity achievement.”
The study found the majority of its 810 participants felt more masculine and had higher self esteem when they though the woman had cum during sex.
“These results suggest that women’s orgasms do function – at least in part – as a masculinity achievement for men,” the researchers explained.
Yes, I am struggling to see the problem, but Chadwick and Van Anders explained why they think it is a bad thing.
“One reason is that it might pressure some heterosexual men to feel like they have to ‘give’ women orgasms, as if orgasm is something men pulled out of a hat and presented to women.
“This ties into cultural ideas of women as passive recipients of whatever men give them.”
According to the report, this means that the orgasm stops being about female enjoyment.
Instead, it is seen as an opportunity for men to “shore up their sense of masculinity.”
Basically, “these men, therefore, were more likely to view women’s orgasms as a notch on the bedpost of their manliness.”
They went on to encourage men not to see it as a ‘notch’ but for what it is.
Too Deep, and Agenda Driven
I have to say, I think they are looking at this far too deeply. A woman wants to have an orgasm during sex, and I suspect the motivations for the guy giving her one are secondary to it actually happening. Would she rather a man feel less masculine, or just finish inside two mins, not make her cum, and then go to sleep? I think I know the answer to that one.
This just seems another way to get feminism in the news. Women can’t even have an orgasm without someone talking about how it isn’t ’empowering’ for them. Listen up, it is sex and it is supposed to be fun. Leave the feminist crap out of it. My suspicion is that very few people care, and those who do probably aren’t having much sex anyway.
Then again, I am not a woman so that rant could be totally wrong. So ladies, do you care if a guy gives you an orgasm to feel more masculine? Let us know by voting in the poll below.
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