Sex toys are amazing. They can teach you so much about your personal pleasure and what turns you on. There are many different styles and functions, so you can reach orgasm in every way possible. And yet people are a little wary about using sex toys for one big reason – they believe they can ruin their sex lives.
There is this strongly held belief that sex toys cause loss of sexual pleasure. You get so used to the toys that you can’t actually reach orgasm without them. This means that all of your sexual relationships are now pointless and you have to become a hermit with a vibrator in order to feel good.
That’s the theory, anyway. But how true is it? I take a look right here on the Escort Ireland blog.
Sex toys are everywhere
Sex toys are still a bit of a taboo because sex is a taboo. It is okay to use it to try and sell things, because sexy sells. Sex itself doesn’t, as we’ve seen with the stigma surrounding the sex industry. Having sex is also okay, as long as it is behind closed doors and no-one has to know anything about it.
Yet the demand for sex toys has grown. Ever since people got the idea into their head that sex toys were a cure for hysteria (a well-believed myth, I’m sorry to report), people have been eager to take pleasure into their own hands. They don’t want to simply touch their own body like some people do. They want to really explore their own pleasure.
You can find sex toys everywhere. On the high street, you’ll discover many stores to visit with toys available… including some of the big names. If you aren’t eager to step out, you can go online instead. There are tons of online stores selling the latest sex toys at a great price, so all you have to do is wait for the post!
The loss of sexual pleasure
The fact that you can get sex toys pretty much anywhere has helped to add to this idea that using toys can cause the loss of sexual pleasure. People believe that, if you continue to use toys, it can ruin you for sex with your partner.
Typically, this thinking comes from the idea of powerful vibrations becoming too intense. Our body will get used to these vibrations and therefore only respond to them in the bedroom.
This basically means that, no matter what happens, your partner wouldn’t be able to get you off. You’d have to resort to using your favourite toy to get there each and every time. You’d become a slave to your vibrator, instead of simply enjoying pleasure with your partner whenever you want to.
What’s the truth?
Needless to say, the idea that sex toys can cause loss of sexual pleasure is a myth. People start to believe this because they might use a sex toy and then have sex with their partner, finding that it doesn’t compare. This might be because their partner doesn’t know quite what to do to make them feel good, whereas they will know exactly how to touch themselves to get to orgasm.
Alana Baum has some fascinating points to make on the subject. A sex and consent educator, Baum spoke with the people at Medium about this idea and had a great example to debunk it:
‘Many people who exercise incorporate weights, machines, and products in their workout routines. Yet they aren’t met with questions like, “Will you ever be able to go on a run again?”‘
Baum also backs this up with science. A 2009 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that a huge number of women experience no side effects from using vibrators. In fact, only 17% quoted things such as “vaginal numbness” as an issue, and even then, they stated that the numbness only lasted a day.
Sex toys and your pleasure
To cut a long story short, sex toys do not cause the loss of sexual pleasure. In some cases they can cause numbness, and we can become reliant on them because we know that they work. This doesn’t mean that they cause a loss of sexual pleasure. It just means that we know how to get ourselves off better than our partners do.
This all comes down to one of my favourite words: communication. It is by far the most effective sex tip you will ever read. If you can communicate with your partner you can solve at least 90% of your relationship problems.
Are you guilty of being too reliant on sex toys? I know that I can be sometimes. Tell me your thoughts on them in the comments below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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