I love reading, no matter if we are talking about books or articles. I read everything that catches my eyes, and this morning I came across an article about how a man can tell if his lover fake orgasms. I got curious, of course, and decided to read it.
While, technically, it made sense, when I actually thought about it, I started laughing. According to the article, a man can see if his lady is faking the orgasm by staring at her pussy, for instance. It is supposed to become reddish and swollen. Unfortunately, not all do. Another way men spot orgasm is by checking the clit, which should be more sensitive. I just don’t understand how would a man know when the lady’s clitoris is…more sensitive, since he doesn’t actually have one.
Now, I stopped here. Who would look for clues at the lady’s vagina while having sex? I get that it changes the colour a bit, but really, people? Can you imagine a man, having sex and looking for “orgasm clues”?
Honestly, this is a really bad idea. Even if you want to get all Sherlocky, and inspect her clit while having sex, you couldn’t tell for sure if she is having an orgasm. No, not all clits become instantly sensitive when the lady climaxes. You should know by now that the clitoris is just like the weather; it never acts the same.
So, instead of acting like an Agatha Christie character, and trying to solve the faking orgasm mystery all by yourself, how about talking to your lady?
Communication Is Always the Key, So Ask!
I am not saying that the article about how to see if a woman is faking orgasms is completely untrue. They have some general truths, but it doesn’t mean that they actually help you understand how your lady functions. We are all different, and even though the signs might appear in many people, they definitely don’t apply to everyone.
Yes, her vagina can contract when she has an orgasm, but it doesn’t actually have to! So, instead of secretly trying to figure out what the hell is going on down there, why not talk about this issue with your partner?
You can put her though hidden tests while having intercourse, or you can open up and just ask the lady, “Are you, or are you not having real orgasms?”
Don’t Just Hear Her, But Listen!
When you ask you partner something, you should be prepared for a real answer. I know many people ask questions, hoping for an answer they don’t actually get. So, be ready for an answer you might not like.
And if your companion tells you her orgasms are less real than you expected, try to have a positive reaction. It doesn’t have to be anybody’s fault, and it might only need a bit of work.
That’s all! So, instead of immediately feeling bad about it, taking all the blame and drowning in your own sufferance, listen to what she has to say and think about a solution.
Practice, Practice, and…Practice!
If you just found out your lady fakes her orgasms, don’t panic! Don’t have a fight because she might have been faking everything for your sake. So, instead of being angry, you should work together and fix this.
Maybe your sex routine is wrong. This doesn’t mean it’s your fault. But you can both talk about what you love and do those things for each other. While you might like quickies, maybe she is into long foreplay. We all know it takes longer for ladies to get in the mood. So, make an effort!
Whether we are talking about friendships, marriage or just sex, communication is always the key to a healthy relation between people. Being able to talk honestly to each other is the first step, followed by listening and trying to fix things together.
So, if you think that your lady is faking orgasms, don’t try to test her, or search her body for clues. Just man up and talk to her!
She is most well known for her sex advice pieces, yet also has a major interest in sexual health and other serious issues. However, this is all done with a quirky style that is unmistakably hers.
When she isn't working, Anna is a fitness fanatic, and enjoys going away with her partner for various weekend trips.
- Anal Play With Escorts: The Right Way To Do It - August 19, 2019
- Your Best Friend Could Be Working in the Sex Industry And That’s Fine - July 1, 2019
- You Can Now Clone Your Own Willy - June 6, 2016
Please log in here to leave a comment.