What is Domination to You?

[Davidontour]

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Hmmm... so what possibily would one hope for with mild domination?

For some it might be about role play (lady boss, teacher etc), for others simply the lady being in charge, perhaps a little light bondage with tape and maybe a blindfold.

I would expect that most who are into 'hardcore' domination would visit a professional domme and it's worth mentioning that many do not offer sexual services. An escort who can deliver light domination (and the cane/paddle/strap-on may be all you need toy-wise) as well as being proactive sexually (HJ, BJ, instigating penetration) is something I believe a lot of guys would go for. You have several on this page already.

If you feel comfortable doing so, it's certainly worth adding light domination to your favourites.

[Curvaceous Kate]

For some guys Domination means punishment and humiliation but for most guys Domination means just the lady in control

So perhaps blindfolds, sensory play, tie and tease, a little spanking, using them as a sex slave? I can do all that.

[Curvaceous Kate]

It seems like a rather grey area. Personally, I love a woman to be in control, and I'm much more into the kinky side of sex than the vanilla side, although I also enjoy that. On the other hand, I'm not into pain or humiliation, and I much prefer if the woman that I am with is nice to me rather than being bossy or bitchy(I have an anti-authoritarian streak!). It would appear that a lot of what is involved in Domination/Submission is psychological rather than just physical, so to answer the original question might involve writing a thesis!

I look forward to reading it

[Davidontour]

So perhaps blindfolds, sensory play, tie and tease, a little spanking, using them as a sex slave? I can do all that.

I think it's fair to say that apart from the ladies who specifically advertise on EI as offering dominatrix services, very few potential clients would expect the word 'domination' to mean more than the activities listed above, and I think the client replies on this thread so far tend to confirm this.

Domination can be a lot of fun as part of a role play scenario and any pain inflicted can be very light or largely symbolic.

Many guys prefer to have the lady in charge and when some playful domination is combined with enthusiastic sexual skills, the effect can be absolutely mind blowing. Trust me on this one.

As Barry mentioned, domination can be a grey area, but communication is the key and when an escort is happy to listen to the client's wishes before an appointment, there's absolutely no reason why it can't be a fun and rewarding experience for both, not to mention being something a little different.

I have visited a few escorts in the past with the specific aim of recieving domination. Only one really worked for me and I will most definitely be going back.

[Curvaceous Kate]

I think it's fair to say that apart from the ladies who specifically advertise on EI as offering dominatrix services, very few potential clients would expect the word 'domination' to mean more than the activities listed above, and I think the client replies on this thread so far tend to confirm this.

Domination can be a lot of fun as part of a role play scenario and any pain inflicted can be very light or largely symbolic.

Many guys prefer to have the lady in charge and when some playful domination is combined with enthusiastic sexual skills, the effect can be absolutely mind blowing. Trust me on this one.

As Barry mentioned, domination can be a grey area, but communication is the key and when an escort is happy to listen to the client's wishes before an appointment, there's absolutely no reason why it can't be a fun and rewarding experience for both, not to mention being something a little different.

I have visited a few escorts in the past with the specific aim of recieving domination. Only one really worked for me and I will most definitely be going back.

That's the bit that concerns me!!!

Also, I don't really like it too much if I am told what to do, so for me it would have to be more a matter of, these are the things I enjoy and take your pick, thank I want this, that and the other!!!

[Davidontour]

That's the bit that concerns me!!!

Also, I don't really like it too much if I am told what to do, so for me it would have to be more a matter of, these are the things I enjoy and take your pick, thank I want this, that and the other!!!

There was a lack of communication beforehand in my early experiences. Knowing exactly what is available and agreeing in advance makes all the difference.

[Curvaceous Kate]

There was a lack of communication beforehand in my early experiences. Knowing exactly what is available and agreeing in advance makes all the difference.

I actually meant that the client can say, these are the things I enjoy, so you can choose from those, rather than the other way round, but of course bearing in mind what I am happy to offer too. I suppose the easiest way round it would be for me to write up a list of available services within the realms of fetish/domination and send it to the potential client, who as you say, can tell me where their interests lie within it and then we can take it from there with in or out of a role play situation.

I may take some time to think about that for the future.

[Kaz]

It seems like a rather grey area. Personally, I love a woman to be in control, and I'm much more into the kinky side of sex than the vanilla side, although I also enjoy that. On the other hand, I'm not into pain or humiliation, and I much prefer if the woman that I am with is nice to me rather than being bossy or bitchy(I have an anti-authoritarian streak!). It would appear that a lot of what is involved in Domination/Submission is psychological rather than just physical, so to answer the original question might involve writing a thesis!

I would be the opposite. Do what the woman says lol.

[Curvaceous Kate]

I would be the opposite. Do what the woman says lol.

And you do it very well kaz

[Kaz]

Domination sounds fun.