So I finally did it, and I'm full of regret! FML

[RicFlair]

So I did it!

I went and paid a girl a visit after a long think AND.... I completely regret it! Worse decision I have ever made! I feel horrible! Genuinely upset that I could do this to such a beautiful women and potentially destroy such a wonderful thing we have together!

I honestly don't know how anybody can do this on a regular basis and then go home to there loving wife/fiancée/ girlfriend or partner. The ultimate betrayal!

I'm finding it hard to think straight. I'm completely paranoid that somebody seen me, that I was caught on CCTV, that the girl had hidden cameras in her room, I caught every STI known to man that there was some little weazel hiding in the wardrobe recording everything.

I was debating on ending my relationship. My partner deserves so much more than this! She would never do anything like this to me and I had never done anything on her. If I was to tell her it would destroy her but she deserves better than me!

How, how, how do people do this?

What will I do? Will my guilt pass?? Will I finish it with her? Help me before I drive myself insane!!

Cheers Johns,
FM

Don't tell her and don't end your relationship.

Instead, ask yourself why you did it? What is lacking in your relationship to have caused you to make this decision? What brought you to her door? Clearly this isn't for you and you feel you've made a mistake. But that's all it is. A mistake. We're all human and we screw up from time to time. Chalk it down to experience.

Personally I gave up punting (hate that word) last December and I haven't seen any Escorts this year at all. You just take it one day at a time. But its different for me. It's a mild addiction and one needs to recognise that.

For yourself, this is clearly something that's not for you. What you should do is talk it out with a counselor or therapist and not anyone close to you or your girlfriend/partner. Find the deep root of your problem that way.

Take care.

[Deven]

So I did it!

I went and paid a girl a visit after a long think AND.... I completely regret it! Worse decision I have ever made! I feel horrible! Genuinely upset that I could do this to such a beautiful women and potentially destroy such a wonderful thing we have together!

I honestly don't know how anybody can do this on a regular basis and then go home to there loving wife/fiancée/ girlfriend or partner. The ultimate betrayal!

I'm finding it hard to think straight. I'm completely paranoid that somebody seen me, that I was caught on CCTV, that the girl had hidden cameras in her room, I caught every STI known to man that there was some little weazel hiding in the wardrobe recording everything.

I was debating on ending my relationship. My partner deserves so much more than this! She would never do anything like this to me and I had never done anything on her. If I was to tell her it would destroy her but she deserves better than me!

How, how, how do people do this?

What will I do? Will my guilt pass?? Will I finish it with her? Help me before I drive myself insane!!

Cheers Johns,
FM

FFS, really!!! First off from a purely personal stand point I would never cheat in a relationship with escort or otherwise, thats just me, but what makes me think that you dont deserve your girlfriend is the lack of respect that's in your post about the person you are with (escort) and I say person not escort because you seem to have no understanding that they could also be very hurt to read comments like "I caught every STI known to man" or "some little weazel hiding in the wardrobe recording everything". The ladies here say that not everyone could do what they do and I am being to understand what thick skin you need to cope with the way that they can get treated or the stigma involved with this profession and you are not helping either. I may come across as been harsh to you dont worry I fully mean it, even if it gets me a ban, break up now as your remorse seem more self centered then for her.

I apologize if I offend anyone but this kinda shit piss me off

[JAMESCORK]

Hang on a second here...

Whats a guy with such morals and with so much guilt doing being a member of a Escorting site in the first place??? And its not as if its his first experience either.. Wasnt FM looking for a Pornstar experience not so long ago....

Pfff... hey buddy, if you cant stand the heat, get out of the kitchen...

[doodlebug]

OK, time for a little perspective, first of you have not done anything to your partner/girlfriend, as she doesn't know you haven't hurt her in anyway. You can hurt her by telling her. You regret having seen an escort so that is it, it is over and done with and not for you. You are torturing yourself and beating yourself up because you scratched an itch, if you forgive the analogy. Put it this way, if you had met a girl while out on Saturday night, had a few drinks and ended up sleeping with her, would you be feeling the same, probably not. You decided to try something a different way that is all, and now you know you didn't want to do it. You made a choice and it was the wrong one, no one else saw you, knows about it or really cares about it as much as you think. So as others have suggested, get off the site, put it behind you and get on with a wonderful relationship with your girlfriend safe in the knowledge you will not stray.

[Morpheus]

I'm a bit confused Freshmilk.

In a previous post you stated that you used to visit escorts.
https://www.escort-ireland.com/board...986#post720986

I appreciate the guilt you are expressing - but am confused as to the sudden paronoia about being caught on CCTV and STI's when you used to do this before being in this relationship.

You had a good think about it over the last two and half months (from your last thread) and still went ahead with it? You weren't forced Freshmilk. None of us are. I'm not trying to sound unsympathetic but you put yourself in this situation and this is the last place you'd get unbiased views.

If you feel as you do, sounds like you need to stop seeing escorts and stop visiting escort sites as well.

One thing - I don't believe "honesty is the best policy" in situations like this. I'd say if you tell her it will all be over!(and for nothing).

[JohnRambo]

Everyone sees escorts for different personal reasons - some punters don't want to have the hassle of a real girlfriend, whereas others are scumbags who just want to fuck something with big tits.

So which category do you fit into then Mousey?

[mellors]

Sorry..dont buy this. Grow a backbone.

[Deven]

I'm a bit confused Freshmilk.
One thing - I don't believe "honesty is the best policy" in situations like this. I'd say if you tell her it will all be over!(and for nothing).

I dont think he should tell her why but neither do I think his remorse is honest, I checked back on his previous post after seeing JC comment and I saw plenty of people telling him that this was not a good idea, he still went a head even after the warning that it might cause problems, seems pretty clear cut that this is not a healthy relationship and what hurt is caused today will be ten times less then what could be cause further down the road if the should get married, I feel that this 'guilt' will last for a short time till the next incident.

[Jaygoodtimes]

Man up and go for round 2

[cutieAdriana]

hunny, dont worry. No hidden cameras, nobody seen you. Just forget it, it s not 4 u... If i can give you an advice NEVER tell it to your wife.

have a nice day

So I did it!

I went and paid a girl a visit after a long think AND.... I completely regret it! Worse decision I have ever made! I feel horrible! Genuinely upset that I could do this to such a beautiful women and potentially destroy such a wonderful thing we have together!

I honestly don't know how anybody can do this on a regular basis and then go home to there loving wife/fiancée/ girlfriend or partner. The ultimate betrayal!

I'm finding it hard to think straight. I'm completely paranoid that somebody seen me, that I was caught on CCTV, that the girl had hidden cameras in her room, I caught every STI known to man that there was some little weazel hiding in the wardrobe recording everything.

I was debating on ending my relationship. My partner deserves so much more than this! She would never do anything like this to me and I had never done anything on her. If I was to tell her it would destroy her but she deserves better than me!

How, how, how do people do this?

What will I do? Will my guilt pass?? Will I finish it with her? Help me before I drive myself insane!!

Cheers Johns,
FM