Question for sex workers [female, male & trans]

[IrishSarahBarra]

Hello

I'm just wondering if you could tell the world one thing about sex work, what would it be?

It could be anything.

Do people think you make much more money than you do in reality? Has it affected your perception of the opposite sex? If so, for better or worse? Even though you're with people, does it get lonely sometimes?

There's lots of examples but if the wider world could only know one thing about your life as a sex worker, what would you like it to be?

Many thanks!

1) I'm built different. Sorry 🙈 I'm around too long to expand on this again. I don't bother talking to the world anymore, he has too much energy and is combative. Baby escorts and friends, yes, but not the world.

2) Some do, some don't. I rather people who overestimate me because people who underestimate me tend to drag me down a little by making me doubt myself. I have clients who've underestimated me in the past...they've shushed up now

I have clients who've overestimated me, and when they question me as to what I have, I'm like...

:-) no but it's helped that you thought I could have.

That doesn't just apply to the finances, it applies to what I was doing or should have been doing, how long I was going to stay in the industry or what I would put on my CV when I leave, and other such things that people could have opinions on.

Don't ever listen to friends or clients who are prone to underestimating you, only listen to the ones who think you can do anything.

3) Yes. I like them so much more now and fear them less. I vividly remember the feeling of realising that men want to be in my company for nothing else but my company.

I trusted one man before escorting, I trust at least 30 now. That's plenty enough for me to feel like the men I will meet will mostly be just like girls with girl needs.

Whether I know them or not, my outlook is that they're mostly just like women.

(Yes, plus some testosterone. Look, we can't castrate them. Personally, I don't want to. Even if the bottom wouldn't fall out of the industry, I like the Ying Yang...I've never had a girlfriend.)

4) Yes, lonely, and there are a host of other emotions that can need dealing with from time to time (for me). Isolation, shame, stigma.

I think it helps knowing and admiring other women in the business. Not for what they can achieve or any of that crap;

knowing them as really nice and good women worth knowing and worthy of everything good, and who I see as having a fundamental right to do with themselves whatever they like, and who also do some good work (though it's not a requirement for people to do "good work" as work).

Because on days I question myself and can't feel pride or deserving for me, I feel it for them.

Stigma is the worst thing for sex workers, not clients.