I appreciate your feedback but I have to emphasize that you're inferring a lot about my situation that isn't true.
I know this person a very long time. Not close friends but share social circles + each others company for many years. So we talk plenty outside the bedroom.
She was the person to instigate this situation and set clear expectations and boundaries. So yes, I can joke about the temporary nature of it. It's her terms. She has been my wing women on many a night out since and has tried to set me up with mutuals more than once. She is under no illusion as to what this is.
I'm 99% certain that were I to rock up with flowers, it would freak her out and she'd do a runner
Anyway I've had a chance to sleep another night on it and am less bothered now. I think she was just trying to say that a woman would want me for more than sex, but she blundered her wording and put me down in the process. When I pressed she was honest cause that's her personality, direct (and unfortunately for me, cutting). But it's preciously because of how direct she is that I always know where I stand with her.
But my main request still stands - I want a lady in Cork with good communication skills that I can practice with (with a focus on giving rather than receiving pleasure). People come on EI with all sorts of requests. I think me looking for an experienced lady to help me up my game seems fairly reasonable.