Dating escorts

[Cable87]

So many cynics in here, and I used to think that I was the most cynical bastard alive.


People meet and find meaningful connections of so many kinds and on so many levels with others in the strangest of places, and life is way too short to categorically limit yourself regarding who you might find a connection with. Obviously, the lines can (and often enough do) become quite blurred when it comes to escorts, as the inherently intimate nature of the profession can make things lean in that direction.

Certainly the 'lines' should be respected as best as possible, but sometimes those connections, whatever level they may reach and so long as they are mutually felt and returned, need not necessarily be ignored or disregarded simply because of the job.

That all having been said, expectations need to stay REALISTIC! Escorting is a JOB, and the physical intimacy associated with the job DOES NOT AUTOMATICALLY EQUATE to emotional intimacy! We as punters should never allow ourselves to think that we could be 'the lucky one', and that the ladies we meet in this business might have or could develop any more than a casual interest in us beyond our punter/client interactions, let alone come to truly care about us-- although stranger things have happened!

I've been 'lucky enough' to have had some friendly interactions with a few ladies beyond or outside of the typical punter/client paradigm, but I never put any expectations on the lady or make any presumptions about things leading to some kind of 'happily ever after'... The 'friendship' and kindness I have been lucky enough to receive from those few ladies has been given 'freely' by them, with no expectations put back onto me for something in return. I'm not even in Ireland anymore, so it's not as if they're being nice and keeping contact simply to retain me as a potential repeat client.

I've been able to meet some very interesting people, whom I truly feel lucky to have as even a small part of my life. That 'connection', at the very least, is 'free'.

[tom sand]

So many cynics in here, and I used to think that I was the most cynical bastard alive.


People meet and find meaningful connections of so many kinds and on so many levels with others in the strangest of places, and life is way too short to categorically limit yourself regarding who you might find a connection with. Obviously, the lines can (and often enough do) become quite blurred when it comes to escorts, as the inherently intimate nature of the profession can make things lean in that direction.

Certainly the 'lines' should be respected as best as possible, but sometimes those connections, whatever level they may reach and so long as they are mutually felt and returned, need not necessarily be ignored or disregarded simply because of the job.

That all having been said, expectations need to stay REALISTIC! Escorting is a JOB, and the physical intimacy associated with the job DOES NOT AUTOMATICALLY EQUATE to emotional intimacy! We as punters should never allow ourselves to think that we could be 'the lucky one', and that the ladies we meet in this business might have or could develop any more than a casual interest in us beyond our punter/client interactions, let alone come to truly care about us-- although stranger things have happened!

I've been 'lucky enough' to have had some friendly interactions with a few ladies beyond or outside of the typical punter/client paradigm, but I never put any expectations on the lady or make any presumptions about things leading to some kind of 'happily ever after'... The 'friendship' and kindness I have been lucky enough to receive from those few ladies has been given 'freely' by them, with no expectations put back onto me for something in return. I'm not even in Ireland anymore, so it's not as if they're being nice and keeping contact simply to retain me as a potential repeat client.

I've been able to meet some very interesting people, whom I truly feel lucky to have as even a small part of my life. That 'connection', at the very least, is 'free'.

hi cable
could you date an escort
knowing what her job intales ?

[Cable87]

hi cable
could you date an escort
knowing what her job intales ?

Hard to say; it would be quite hypocritical to have initially MET THEM as an escort, but then put the expectation on them to quit their job after we'd be together because of what it entails.

Many years ago, I found myself in the early stages of what might've eventually led to 'romantic involvement' with a lady in the business. We met a few times right before I was going away for the whole summer, and we stayed in regular contact the whole time I was gone. There was a genuine mutual attraction there, but things didn't get off the ground between us after I got back. She rang me in tears telling me that she simply could not do the job if she was in a relationship, and so had to cool things off between us and NOT let them develop in the direction they seemed to be headed.

Did she have genuine feelings for me??? Maybe. Or was she simply trying to gently let down a naive, misguided young man who was young and stupid enough to think that a lady like her would ever sink so low as to feel anything 'real' for him??? Maybe.

I have to say that during that summer, I tried not to dwell on her current job; I suppose I tried to take comfort in the fact that I knew what her plans were beyond escorting, and that she was well on her way to meeting her financial goals and was less than a year away from achieving them (which she did in the end).

But as for how I might have felt or ultimately dealt with her working as an escort had we gotten into a full-on relationship, I can't really say. There would be no way to know how I would have felt or reacted without having actually been in that situation. The small part of me that (perhaps with that same youthful naivety) still believes in 'love', would like to hold onto the hope that I could look past the job, at least as long as there was an end to it in sight. But the realistic side of me would have to take into account the distinct possibility that I might not be able to deal with it.

I'm know I didn't definitively answer your question, but I don't have anything more definitive than that to tell you.

[tom sand]

Hard to say; it would be quite hypocritical to have initially MET THEM as an escort, but then put the expectation on them to quit their job after we'd be together because of what it entails.

Many years ago, I found myself in the early stages of what might've eventually led to 'romantic involvement' with a lady in the business. We met a few times right before I was going away for the whole summer, and we stayed in regular contact the whole time I was gone. There was a genuine mutual attraction there, but things didn't get off the ground between us after I got back. She rang me in tears telling me that she simply could not do the job if she was in a relationship, and so had to cool things off between us and NOT let them develop in the direction they seemed to be headed.

Did she have genuine feelings for me??? Maybe. Or was she simply trying to gently let down a naive, misguided young man who was young and stupid enough to think that a lady like her would ever sink so low as to feel anything 'real' for him??? Maybe.

I have to say that during that summer, I tried not to dwell on her current job; I suppose I tried to take comfort in the fact that I knew what her plans were beyond escorting, and that she was well on her way to meeting her financial goals and was less than a year away from achieving them (which she did in the end).

But as for how I might have felt or ultimately dealt with her working as an escort had we gotten into a full-on relationship, I can't really say. There would be no way to know how I would have felt or reacted without having actually been in that situation. The small part of me that (perhaps with that same youthful naivety) still believes in 'love', would like to hold onto the hope that I could look past the job, at least as long as there was an end to it in sight. But the realistic side of me would have to take into account the distinct possibility that I might not be able to deal with it.

I'm know I didn't definitively answer your question, but I don't have anything more definitive than that to tell you.

thanks cable
as for me
i could at the begining
put if i know she was serious
with me and her
i dont know if i could do it
it would be on my mind every time she went of to work
put i cant tell her what to do and what not to do
so it would probably end in tears

[JAMESCORK]

?? lay off the drugs man ,some girls even work with their boyfriends , 99% have boyfriends/husbands in foreign countries they both go to work in foreign countries to earn it happens alot so they don't drift into anything maybe drift into more money from daft gobhshites

You seem very knowledgeable.. where do you get your facts lad, and on what experiences to you base your statements...hmmm?

[naturis]

You seem very knowledgeable.. where do you get your facts lad, and on what experiences to you base your statements...hmmm?

common fucking sense

[Westsidex]

The question of dating escorts came up in the course of another thread and I thought that posters opinions and experiences in this regard deserved its own thread
In my experience there is a fundamental difference between dating escorts and dating non-escorts. It is not the difference that you are thinking because you always pay for sex in one way or another. The difference is that escorts tend to be open to friendship whereas girls that one might meet at work or in a club tend to be looking for love.
Escorts in the main are intelligent businesswomen following a life goal and the last thing that they want is some man trying to ‘make an honest woman out of them’ or ‘take them away from it all’. Many of them are in the business to get away from or be independent from men that wanted to control them. ‘Love’ is a dangerous word for an escort because today’s lover can easily be tomorrow’s stalker/psycho. If you want to ‘woo’ an escort you must first convince her that you do not love her, you just want her body!!
Ironically, escorting can be a lonely profession and many escorts are open to simple fun and friendship with someone who respects them and respects what they do. Looks tend to be less important to an escort than to other girls. I think that escorts learn to appreciate people more for what they are than what they look like.
I often see the idea touted here that escorts are all hard hearted bitches who are only interested in money. Of course escorts are interested in money as it is their business and why should they treat their business any differently to how a client treats his. That does not mean to say that escorts cannot enjoy their work or make friends in the course of their work like any other profession. Affection and friendliness on the part of an escort is not always faked. If you find that you get on well with an escort and she seems to get on with you then discretely drop hints about interesting places to eat or drink and see if the bait is taken
However, if you are interested in dating an escort because you think that you will get free sex then go back to playing the lotto, you have a far better chance of success

At the end of the day its the person that counts not what they work at. Thats all that matters because then its like anything else.

Westside.

[Westsidex]

Hard to say; it would be quite hypocritical to have initially MET THEM as an escort,

Maybe it is ,maybe it isnt. Shouldnt matter though if things are right and remember we were all born out of a ride anyway.

Westside.

[Westsidex]

hi cable
could you date an escort
knowing what her job intales ?

Why couldnt you trust an escort and not some girl you meet anywhere else? See the problem here is not her or her job but the guys mind.

Westside.

[Westsidex]

Some men, like me for example, would happily meet up every now and again with an escort and have a morning coffee and a chat or lunch and a glass of wine. There are some very interesting and fun ladies here.

Bringing us back to gossiping threads again lol

Westside.