What is Domination to You?

[Curvaceous Kate]

I recently did a bit of role play domination with one of my regular clients, as I know before we met he really only met up with Domme's and although I know he is enjoying the GFE I thought it would be a bit of fun. However, I by no means consider myself to be a Domme, as I have seen many real ones in action and believe myself to be far too much of a pussy cat to reach those levels.

However... after the session was over he was insisting that I should add domination to my favourites, saying that I had done a better job than some of the other Escorts he had chosen for offering this service.

I have thought about it and I still don't feel that I should, after all, I've only got a paddle, a cane and a strap-on (which I need L-plates for) and I'm very green behind the ears.

So... I'm now wondering what exactly do clients want from a Domme? Should there be levels of domination offered?, i.e. if I could put down that I was a grade 3 Domme (light domination) then I would be happy, but I'm no where near the level 1 say of Sexy Jessica or Miss Alisha and I believe the clients that see them would consider me a joke.

What do you look for in a Domme?

[Anitafan]

Hi Kate, firstly thanks for your open and honest email. It is refreshing to see such an approach in a business where service providers often become jaded.

With regard to your question, I think that domination is far more psychological than being about inflicting pain. For me, it is about giving up control to an attractive woman who likes kinky play. If you want to discuss some more, please pm me.

[willieh]

Hi Kate, firstly thanks for your open and honest email. It is refreshing to see such an approach in a business where service providers often become jaded.

With regard to your question, I think that domination is far more psychological than being about inflicting pain. For me, it is about giving up control to an attractive woman who likes kinky play. If you want to discuss some more, please pm me.

What an interesting and thought provoking reply....... now you are making me think .................

[Anitafan]

What an interesting and thought provoking reply....... now you are making me think .................

As you are me! Which bit is making you think? Please share your thoughts. I would be very interested.

[Curvaceous Kate]

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Hmmm... so what possibily would one hope for with mild domination?

[Davidontour]

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Hmmm... so what possibily would one hope for with mild domination?

For some it might be about role play (lady boss, teacher etc), for others simply the lady being in charge, perhaps a little light bondage with tape and maybe a blindfold.

I would expect that most who are into 'hardcore' domination would visit a professional domme and it's worth mentioning that many do not offer sexual services. An escort who can deliver light domination (and the cane/paddle/strap-on may be all you need toy-wise) as well as being proactive sexually (HJ, BJ, instigating penetration) is something I believe a lot of guys would go for. You have several on this page already.

If you feel comfortable doing so, it's certainly worth adding light domination to your favourites.

[bollocks]

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Hmmm... so what possibily would one hope for with mild domination?

Have experienced plenty of dom sessions, and for me it usually works.
My fantasies are always school based and cp in nature,#
It is usual to want more than one gets, or is realistically able to take.
Such sessions always also consist of being sexually aroused and touch regularly during sessions, and end with a Happy ending. Ofthe done by the girl and sometimes being forced to do it yourself, with extra punishment for failure, which usually makes you come

Most men have very specific requirements as to what they want/don't want.

[hottrod101]

I recently did a bit of role play domination with one of my regular clients, as I know before we met he really only met up with Domme's and although I know he is enjoying the GFE I thought it would be a bit of fun. However, I by no means consider myself to be a Domme, as I have seen many real ones in action and believe myself to be far too much of a pussy cat to reach those levels.

However... after the session was over he was insisting that I should add domination to my favourites, saying that I had done a better job than some of the other Escorts he had chosen for offering this service.

I have thought about it and I still don't feel that I should, after all, I've only got a paddle, a cane and a strap-on (which I need L-plates for) and I'm very green behind the ears.

So... I'm now wondering what exactly do clients want from a Domme? Should there be levels of domination offered?, i.e. if I could put down that I was a grade 3 Domme (light domination) then I would be happy, but I'm no where near the level 1 say of Sexy Jessica or Miss Alisha and I believe the clients that see them would consider me a joke.

What do you look for in a Domme?

Hi Kate, first thanks for your honesty.
I think a lot of guys would like u just to take control, speak "bossy" to them , order them into certain positions, get them to wear some undies or tights/stockings, make them worship you (enjoyment for both parties!), use the toys/strapon on them if they wish, and finish with a nice HJ or BJ or penetration depending on what you or the guy prefers...

You are well equipped already with the paddle cane and strapon!
You might want to invest in a few toys to "start with" , for loosening up so to speak!
I think most guys would love this, without moving to the other levels of bondage, pain, etc
Hope this helps

[Curvaceous Kate]

Hi Kate, first thanks for your honesty.
I think a lot of guys would like u just to take control, speak "bossy" to them , order them into certain positions, get them to wear some undies or tights/stockings, make them worship you (enjoyment for both parties!), use the toys/strapon on them if they wish, and finish with a nice HJ or BJ or penetration depending on what you or the guy prefers...

You are well equipped already with the paddle cane and strapon!
You might want to invest in a few toys to "start with" , for loosening up so to speak!
I think most guys would love this, without moving to the other levels of bondage, pain, etc
Hope this helps

Thank you to both of you.

How would I make this level of domination expressed without going into full details on my advert? Is there any BDSM jargon that I'm not aware of that describes this for those in the know? Mild domination?

[hottrod101]

Kate
I don't know if there is a technical term but if I saw "light dom with happy ending of your choice " I'd be more than happy!!!
:-)