Does your wife/girlfriend know you visit escorts?

[mer]

fair play to you for coming clean that was a very ballsy thing to do dude i bet you slipped on a pair of metal boxers b4 the chat incase ya got a right kick in balls hehe

no but really you have some nerve to admit what you do who knows after that little chat your wife or partner might be all over you 24 hours day and making sure she does everything you want

wow what an understanding lady to be cool with it where do you people find women like that at all haha


this is me speaking personally if i had a wife or partner and she admitted to me to seeing escorts behind my back i must say i would not take it very nicely it would kinda break me as to think that she had to go around my back to please herself and i would feel pretty down and low and feel like some useless piece of shit, i just pray that if someday if i ever do find somebody that it will be only me she will be with and not some random dudes behind my back that shit you would break your heart finding out.... well it would for me anyway cause id feel useless that your partner had to go behind your back..... it would break you in half if she wasnt happy it would be better if she just said that and i could find somebody else how i cud trust not to go behind my back... simples

anyway hey fair play to coming clean and telling her anyway its like a miricule story that she didnt cut your willy off

[WatWatWat]

I ate all the Jaffa cakes.
Sorry.

[very shy guy]

Are you saying that they shouldn't see Escorts at all or that they should lie? At least if she knows about it she has the choice to walk or accept it and it is her choice, which otherwise she does not have. Some women in later life have no sex drive at all and it might feel like the better consequence to splitting up. Thinking about it I think my Mum would have coped if my Step Dad had been seeing an Escort, as I know the idea of being single again in her 60s was very traumatic for her. As it was he had an affair with a bar maid and she couldn't forgive that. She isn't happy now and funnily enough, neither is he.

Life is never cutndried, it's easy to see things black and white when you still have so much life ahead of you, but I'm afraid it won't be like that forever.

I can see both sides Kate,he is lucky as from what I know of ladies in general they tend to be very territoral,as you say though,your mum ended up unhappy.

[bulmers19]

Just wanted to throw that out there.

I have come clean to the mrs about my activities and she is pretty ok with it. There are certain services not available in the wicklow37 bedroom and she has no problems with me getting them else where.

Was I mad to come clean?

I wouldnt have the nerve to tell my best mate never mind a partner
fair play to you for being so honest wit your partner

[Naughtynatalie]

ah jaysus it must be nice to be able to sit on the moral high ground and judge whats right and wrong for others

[very shy guy]

I don't agree. I don't want to be with someone who isn't 100% committed and it's possible that I am with them, because I think they love me, but I'm not sure if I love them. Maybe it's not right for us to be together and we are both living a lie?

I think a lot of men never ask their partners for certain things sexually as well and they might be surprised at what they would be happy to do. Communication is key to any relationship. It's just a shame that so many couples wait until it is too late or slip up.

By the way, it's not telling them that breaks their heart, it's doing it.

A very good point that last one Kate.

[FullLife]

ah jaysus it must be nice to be able to sit on the moral high ground and judge whats right and wrong for others

Meh...it's okay, gets a bit boring after a while tbh.

[CoolJay]

ah jaysus it must be nice to be able to sit on the moral high ground and judge whats right and wrong for others

If we all thought like that then there would be no general disscussion

Or are well as suppose to agree and lick everyones ass.

Perhaps your high horse is alittle high...irony.

[Stephanie]

I wouldnt have the nerve to tell my best mate never mind a partner
fair play to you for being so honest wit your partner

Wicklow xx

I wonder were you honest because you chose to be, or did you get caught and had to fess up and it sort of worked out ?

And how long have you been in this relationship ? xx

{I haven't read the whole thread, apologies if this has been covered } xxx

[UKHeather]

Marriages are as individual as snowflakes. Whatever works for yours is right. So long as both parties are happy and content.