What is Domination to You?

[cantgetenuff]

Evening Kate et al.

I've been to several different dom’s on this site and each has their own area of expertise but the one thing that is universal is the control of the mistress is paramount to both parties.
I also now have a good idea what I'm looking for in a session as well
IMHO I would also distinguish session between sensual or sadistic along with light/mild/severe.
I think it would be fair to say some mistresses wont entertain a more sensual domination session and I’d imagine some mistress aren’t into some of the more sadistic theme as it may just not be their kicks.
I’ve found the most rewarding sessions are the one’s that are well planned in advance with the mistress after reviewing the mistress available services and expressing which one I’m interested in.
Knowing what services are available by a mistress is critical to ensuring a good session. A sub looking for a service which the mistress is not willing to offer can make the mistress uncomfortable and leave the sub/slave unintentionally frustrated and result in a poor session....

[Mistress4u]

Hi Katy

I always say that Domination its a very big "area " and involve loads of fetishes. Every session might be different that's why I love it and find interesting.
When the guy ask you for domination service just tell him what you comfortable with and what you offer and after its his choice to book appointment or not.

Loads of guys who ring me for the first time say - I want to try domination but I dont like the Pain - and I always say that it doesn't need to involve pain. Like guys all ready said domination can be also more Physical.

Loads of guys also can't go back home with bruises allover them ;-)

If you enjoyed it just "play and experiment" with it a bit :-)
Everybody start somewhere :-)

I started over 10 years ago in London when met some Mistress and did some work with her. Found it very exiting and started exploring Domination a bit more ;-)

I know and meet some guys for few years now and along the way I learned some things from them to ;-)

Good communication its a key. New guys I usually ask to send me a PM or e-mail to explain exactly what they are looking for and that allow me to prepare and plan the session better.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Hi Katy

I always say that Domination its a very big "area " and involve loads of fetishes. Every session might be different that's why I love it and find interesting.
When the guy ask you for domination service just tell him what you comfortable with and what you offer and after its his choice to book appointment or not.

Loads of guys who ring me for the first time say - I want to try domination but I dont like the Pain - and I always say that it doesn't need to involve pain. Like guys all ready said domination can be also more Physical.

Loads of guys also can't go back home with bruises allover them ;-)

If you enjoyed it just "play and experiment" with it a bit :-)
Everybody start somewhere :-)

I started over 10 years ago in London when met some Mistress and did some work with her. Found it very exiting and started exploring Domination a bit more ;-)

I know and meet some guys for few years now and along the way I learned some things from them to ;-)

Good communication its a key. New guys I usually ask to send me a PM or e-mail to explain exactly what they are looking for and that allow me to prepare and plan the session better.

Thank you, really good to hear from someone who has experience behind them providing the service. I agree that communication is key and I think I need to work out where my limits and interests lie and then go for it.

[Ladyvonteese]

Personally its the best erotic mind fuck ever, when compatible.

All the best Lady Von Teese

[Curvaceous Kate]

Personally its the best erotic mind fuck ever, when compatible.

All the best Lady Von Teese

That is the key! How do you find that key?

[cantgetenuff]

Actually Mistress4U made a really good point, three questions:

1. Light/mild/severe
2. sensual/sadistic
3. marks/no marks

I've forgotten to ask for no marks on a recent occasion and had to spend the following week on holidays wearing knee length shorts all week in 35°C which presented its own form of torture and amused the mistress in question as well as I told her the prospect of the following week.

Can I just say as well, this is all ment to be fun as well. Slaves/subs may be scream/winching in pain on the outside but on the inside you should be smiling at least....

ENJOY....

[Curvaceous Kate]

Actually Mistress4U made a really good point, three questions:

1. Light/mild/severe
2. sensual/sadistic
3. marks/no marks

I've forgotten to ask for no marks on a recent occasion and had to spend the following week on holidays wearing knee length shorts all week in 35°C which presented its own form of torture and amused the mistress in question as well as I told her the prospect of the following week.

Can I just say as well, this is all ment to be fun as well. Slaves/subs may be scream/winching in pain on the outside but on the inside you should be smiling at least....

ENJOY....

I do think it is important to be professional in this area at all times, it's not like sex where you can be guided by your own natural instinct, which is why I have been hesitant. If and when I do it, I want to get it right. This thread has been invaluable and I'm very grateful to the contributions for helping me with my decisions.

[xagerate]

The only Domination i do is verbal,i would never physically harm by bitches, i send them the bank and shopping etc.... i guess i'm only into financial domination?

Hmmm........How about I book Mistress4U again and you take the money at the door?
Short latex ensemble obligatory but you could sit in the corner counting it while she did her thing with me

[Ladyvonteese]

Hi Kate,

Just been writing to add to this thread but think its best when we meet up for that coffee I will have a chat about this due to copy right issues honey. As I have another website other than www.ladyvonteese.com which did have 55 pages on it which I am sure if your thinking of starting in this business or just wish to know more about what its about, the laws involved in fetishes or for those who have an interest in all sorts of fetishes it would be very helpful, however I have taken it down to add more pages to it and do the up dates which is going to take a bit of time due to the volume of stuff thats on it honey
All the best

That is the key! How do you find that key?

[WatWatWat]

No broad will ever boss me around.