Are You a Good Liar?

[Curvaceous Kate]

Recently it has come to call that I can't really enjoy my work, as I don't see myself doing this is 20 years time. Well let me tell you something. I'm just a crap liar and I find the secrets and lies very hard and it does not come naturally to me, so yes, I do crave being in a situation where I can be honest about how I make my money and then go and live by my family again. It has nothing to do with enjoying the work, but to do with living a lie and I can't see myself doing that for the next 20 years.

I know some ladies have told their families what they have been doing, or they have found out and it has not been easy for everyone, with some losing all contact with their families. I just don't want to take that risk, which is one of the reasons why I moved over here, as it does take some of the pressure off, although not entirely.

Sooo... most of us are in the same boat with having to tell a few porkies, about where we are and what we are doing. The question is... are you a good liar, or do you also find it hard, or does it add an extra buzz to the already naughty activity? Or did you find it so hard to live a lie that you told people? If you did, was it worth the risk or did it backfire on you?

[BootSlick55]

I am a compulsive liar. And I love myself for it.

[madjack]

i'm a good liar and the secret is alway's remember who you told which lie to. For example in this business if i am going to cork or limerick to visit a lady i always say that i'm going in that direction just in case i meet someone i know. Told the wife one night i was going up near Cork to look at a vintage machine which in fact i was going visiting a lady from E.I. When i came back for the car it was stolen so i always say i am going in the general direction. I don't need to lie to escort girl's as it is a brief encounter. Never hesitate when telling a lie.

[samlad]

When someone tells me that they are a bad liar, I am less likely to believe them. Am I a good liar? Well, people tend not to believe me when I'm telling the truth, so there you have it. As Napoleon once said:

"History is the version of past events that people have decided to agree upon."

When it comes to moderating issues on the forums, and generally in life (with children, politics, etc.), people naturally have two different sides to a story. The 'victim' tends to exaggerate the extremity of the situation whereas the 'instigator' trivialises their antics, so I always guess that things happen right down the middle.

It's easy to lie online and be anyone you want under the guise of anonymity, but in real life, not so easy. You have to have a very good memory to be a good liar, so that's where I would falter, as my memory is awful.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Hi Kate,

There are very few what you would call good Liars, some are good at telling stories , make them believable and good a remembering them. BUT anyone that know this person really well will know instinctively they are lying for example your mother always knew when you were lying ( even if you weren't you were) wives over a period of time will also spot flaws, mannerisms etc which won't back what he or she is lying about.

I have been involved is sales for years and have seen very few that lie superbly, I think the trick to a good liar is to
Not exaggerate the lie, keep simple and very low key, say it as if it doesn't really care
Stick to the truth as much as possible
When your telling a lie have 3 answers always ready on the tip of your tongue to the question that is coming.
Never turn away when telling a lie, OWN the lie as if it were gospel

Finaly if you don't have to say any thing at all don't lie for the sake of it.

Great tips there Mr Biggy and very much appreciated. I think this is where I fall short, as I do have a bad memory and I find myself avoiding people, so I don't get into those situations and that means I'm isolating myself, which isn't good.

[warmcome]

i don't lie much and need others to keep it real as they can.
i reckon i can spot a lie sometimes, the 'acting' looks/sounds unnatural, disproportionate.

[screwloose]

no im not good at lying to anyone in person as my facial expressions usually give me away all the time

[dr love]

In regards to punting , I've always just seen it as , uncomplicated fun with a beautiful woman ,and can leave it outside when I cross my threshold .
Some just have to learn where the line is drawn I suppose .

Am I living a lie , suppose I am but it hasn't changed me, and that's where you have to learn that line .
Punting is not for everyone .:doc

[La Toya]

Well, Kate l think each one of us are good liasr yet people think that a liar gains a victory over our/her/his victim yet what I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked. A man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then o..! just as the saying goes: There are no white lies, there is only the blackest of destruction, and a white lie is the blackest of all....!

[Curvaceous Kate]

In regards to punting , I've always just seen it as , uncomplicated fun with a beautiful woman ,and can leave it outside when I cross my threshold .
Some just have to learn where the line is drawn I suppose .

Am I living a lie , suppose I am but it hasn't changed me, and that's where you have to learn that line .
Punting is not for everyone .:doc

I'm not talking about lying within punting, but the lies you weave in order to punt. The people on the outside that know and love you and how you protect them from what you are doing, or yourself for that matter.