It is a question that is often debated all over the internet. Some feel that porn is a great way to learn new tips and tricks to spice up your sex life, while others think it is really unrealistic of what sex is actually like.
Can porn be educational, teaching people how sex could be and how to do things, or is it giving people unrealistic expectations when it comes to sex and orgasms? We take a look all sides of the argument.
Educational
How many times have you found yourself watching porn and thinking “I might try that” or “I can do that”? It happens a lot, and it can give you ideas for different positions and things to try in the bedroom.
A lot of people are now turning to erotic video websites for porn tutorials. You can find videos of stars explaining how to get your girlfriend to squirt, or how to give someone a mind-blowing blowjob. Whatever your needs are, you can find them easily with a quick search on a website.
Role playing porn is not only a turn on to watch, but it can also give you ideas of erotic scenarios you want to try yourself. The inspiration is a great help for those looking to spice things up in the bedroom, and seeing others trying it can give you the confidence to try. Those unsure of just what to say or how to act in these role playing games can get answers from simply watching a video.
Unrealistic expectations
However, a lot of people feel that porn is unrealistic. In some videos, the woman moans and groans as though she is having an orgasm as soon as the man touches her, even if it seems he isn’t doing much at all. I’ve seen porn videos where the woman has faked an orgasm while giving the man a blowjob, which is extremely unrealistic and only happens in fiction (like the Linda Lovelace video that made her famous).
People also seem surprised if they don’t last as long as the men in the videos. The male porn stars seem to be able to go for hours on end none stop, and don’t seem at all phased as things get hotter. Real people don’t last that long, so it is hardly surprising that some men are feeling inadequate in the bedroom when they compare themselves to porn stars!
Is porn really the problem?
The thing we need to remember is that porn and sex are two different things. Porn is a form of entertainment, designed to last a long time and turn you on. Sex is the gratification and orgasms you get with a partner. What you see in porn is not realistic of life… so can we really blame porn for unrealistic expectations?
We need to start looking at porn as what it is – entertainment. It is not a documentary, telling you that if you press x, y, and z, then your girlfriend will orgasm. It isn’t telling you that your boyfriend will last long enough to get you to orgasm, either. It is simply going “look at these two going at it… isn’t that hot?”
What do you think? Is porn educational, does it give unrealistic expectations, or is it just entertainment that we need to take with a pinch of salt? You can leave your thoughts over on the Escort Ireland forum, or comment below.
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